Saying goodbye to our pets is never easy. My dogs are more than just animal companions—they are my best friends and a beloved part of my family. Because we form such powerful connections with our furry friends, losing them can be a devastating experience. Dog owners often report feeling guilty, lonely and scared during the days and weeks surrounding their pet’s passing. Whether you or someone in your life is going through this difficult grieving process, here are three tips I can share on how to manage the pain of loss.
Talk to someone
Try to find a safe person in your life, such as a close friend or relative, who you can talk to about your loss. Have an honest conversation with them about your emotions and what they can do to help—or simply share about the joyful, wonderful life you lived with your dog. If you cannot contact a trusted individual, reach out to your veterinarian to see if they can share any resources. There are also grief support organizations that you can contact for help. The Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement (APLB), for example, is a volunteer organization that provides pet bereavement counseling, emergency support hotlines, and chat rooms to aid people throughout the mourning process. Speaking to other pet owners who have gone through similar experiences can help you feel more connected during this painful time; the most important thing to remember is that you are not alone.
Memorialize your pet
Consider gathering some friends and family (physically or virtually) to share stories or pictures of your pet. These events can honor your pet’s life and give others an opportunity to say goodbye as well. Some owners also choose to arrange funeral or burial services for their pets, and others may even plant a tree or sow a garden as a living tribute to their companions.
You can also memorialize your dog through various personal projects and activities. Print out your favorite dog photos and hang them around your home. Children can also keep memories alive with drawing or scrapbooking projects.
If you are struggling to recount happy experiences, try journaling about your pet’s story. When did you meet your dog? How has owning a dog impacted your life? What will you miss the most about your friend? Reflecting on these questions throughout the days, weeks, and months after your dog’s passing can help you and your loved ones honor them in a healthy, mindful way.
Give yourself time and space
The grieving process looks different for every person, and many of us never truly heal from this type of loss. Take your time and pay attention to your emotions so you can do what feels right for you. Similarly, there is never a “right” time to get a new pet. Some owners feel ready after a couple days, while others might need several years. Don’t feel pressured to welcome another furry friend into your life, especially if you feel that it will disrespect the relationship with the pet you lost. Most importantly, remember that it’s okay to not be okay. There is no wrong or right way to grieve. No matter what, the memory of your dog will live on in your heart forever.
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